When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. ~Sophia Loren
If you aren’t aware of my story https://4murphyslaw.wordpress.com/ then you might not realize that I represent a class within a class in the world of open adoption. I represent birth fathers but I also represent birth fathers who had no idea that they were birth fathers. I have sought the advice of many in how to deal with this challenging situation but the support and guidance that my mom has given me been is priceless. When I am hurting, she is hurting and it’s been that way since day one. She doesn’t help me because she wants something in return, she helps me because she is my mom and that is the only way she knows. The last couple weeks have been especially challenging. I have been curious about the adoptive parents and their reaction once they receive my letter. Knowing that you have absolutely zero control over a situation in which you care so deeply about is very stressful. I have done my best to remain optimistic and hope for the best but after time it can be easy to start having doubts. My mom knew that the days were starting to wear on me and she encouraged me to put everything in Gods hands and let him take over. Well wouldn’t you know it, just one day after those words of wisdom I received an email from the adoptive parents agreeing to meet and my wife!
This is a start and yet another small step in this continuous process and I find it fitting that this positive news can be shared on Mothers Day. However, It’s important to me that I recognize the adoptive mom as well. I admire her for allowing this possibility to take place. My hope is that her Mothers Day is filled with love and joy.
I wonder so much about that little boy and I wonder if he is a Momma’s Boy like me.
Growing up I used to hate being labeled as a “Momma’s Boy”, yet today, years later… I take great pride in that phrase. To me, a “Momma’s Boy” is a boy or man who knows and appreciates the love that is given to him by his Mom. He is wise enough to know that sometimes the instincts and emotions of a man need the softness and wisdom of a mother. A Momma’s Boy knows when he has done wrong, as well as knowing when to stick up for himself and fight for what is right.
I am a Momma’s Boy and proud of it. I dedicate this blog to my Mom because she has been there for me since day one. She has helped me take this process one step at a time. She has told me to let go and let God take over in when you have no control. The only bad part is that she wasn’t able to edit this post for me!
Thank you mom for your love and support and for joining in my journey. Happy Mothers Day.